I KISSED DATING GOODBYEJoshua Harris was 21-years old when he wrote his story of giving up the dating game in order to focus on serving God. The hope behind it was that other singles would be helped by some of the lessons he was learning. Most people have an opinion about “that book about not dating.” Some love it; others despise it. I’d encourage you not to assume you know what it says without having read it. Many readers who start out critics of I Kissed Dating Goodbye are surprised to learn that the core message of the book isn’t about “dating,” but living your life for God.